Do You Have Grit?

Do you have grit?No matter where you live in the world this one fact is indisputable. The end of January is right upon us all next week.

Is this fact shocking to you? Are you asking yourself – where did this month go?

If you made some New Year’s Resolutions – how are they going? There is a saying: how you do anything is how you do everything. 

My guess is how you handled your January, how you handled your New Year’s Resolutions is how you are going to handle each month for the rest of this year and every goal setting or promise you make to yourself as you move forward.

What will it take for this not to be true? GRIT. That is right: GRIT.

Grit means to me how you describe a person who has the resolve, the determination, the strength of character to move through anything to get where they want to go or to achieve something difficult. This is what it takes to move through a list of goals toward one or more objectives.

Now this means the goals still have to be stated in the proper S.M.A.R.T. way. The progress or not toward meeting the goals must still be tracked. It still means the goals must actually be meaningful toward meeting one or more objectives (think – what is my Why?).

Grit means seeking out people who will hold you accountable and meeting or at least communicating with them regularly in a scheduled format. This is to hold you accountable – the missing ingredient for the majority of people who fail to achieve anything through their haphazard resolution or goal setting process.

The question remains for you to answer – Do You Have Grit?

Let’s see if you will get going now and get started –

  1. Write out your top three objectives you want to achieve this year for your personal life (3) and in your business or career (3).
  1. What exactly will you do starting next week toward achieving these?
  1. List out five people you will share this information with.
  1. Ask a person to be your accountability partner. A person who will agree to hold you accountable by meeting with you or communicating with you on a regularly scheduled basis.

Now show your grit. Follow these steps and you will be ready to grit it out this year.

If you are one of those scoffing at this process it is okay. I still love you. You just have no grit!

Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on Leadership Development, Business Consulting and Executive Coaching. With clients throughout the world the company is based in Stamford, CT.

Be on the lookout for a special call on goal setting. No cost. In fact you lose if you’re not on the call.

Would You Like To Have More Time?

Why don’t our goals or resolutions get accomplished? Many of my initial client conversations on this topic begin with –“No time! I really do not have any time for it!”

Really? Would you like to have more time?

Would you like to have more time?Think about how many demands there are on your time. We are all so really, so very busy people aren’t we? In fact, take a moment and either on your device or a good old pad of paper take note of the ten things pulling at your time right now. Quickly, just ten things – write them out.

How do you determine which items to address immediately and which are the ones that can wait until later? 

For many of us responding to a text or an email is a priority, Why is that? Seriously how did that happen?  What we are doing is allowing a demand on our time to jump our determined line of importance because a message has been delivered electronically!

Many of us will determine to address items in an order based upon the topic.

  1. A family emergency – this would take priority over most other items for many  people. An emergency is not that your nine year old daughter left her lunch on the school bus.  If you have an assistant hopefully they handled how she might buy lunch that day at school and you don’t even know about it at all until later.
  2. If you are in charge of a group of people, their leader, any time one of them has an important item to discuss with you or a situation where they may need your guidance or input, hopefully you have set up a way for their issue or concern to move right up to the top of your list. By responding with questions they will need to answer and essentially solve their problems themselves, over time, you will be contacted less and less often.
  3. Your role may be to bring in new business, or to handle any current client engagements, or you may be in charge of a project. Each day you should have regularly scheduled calls or meetings. However, if there is an issue you will want to deal with it as soon as possible and this must move up on your list.
  4. Maybe you are the business owner. A service based business or a retail business. Your number one priority has to be spending most of you time engaged in income producing activities. Period. There is no discussion. “Well, Mitch, you just don’t understand – my market – my business – my situation..…” 

Use the contact form here and tell your story. Let’s see it. 

At this point you get the idea, how do you set your own priorities for what you do first with your precious time? Now for anyone who is convinced they have zero time to work on or to devote to any new or bigger goals – here is your assignment.

For two weeks from the time you wake up in the morning until you go to bed each night, write down in a few words exactly what you did for the last twenty minutes. Period. Each and everyday for the next two weeks. For every single twenty minutes all day long. Bring this reporting with you to the table and review it with either a close, friend, your partner, spouse or executive coach and ask this question – 

“How much time do I have to spend on achieving bigger goals and my own personal development?”

My bet on you is hours!  As in hours each day!

Ready to Find It?

Mitch Tublin owns a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on leadership development, business consulting and executive coaching. Based in Stamford, CT they serve clients all over the world.

You Set Them And Then Forget Them!

New Year’s Resolutions! Of course you do – so does almost everyone else!

Setting 2017 New Years ResolutionsHow soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

The answer will be given shortly, first check out what are typically in the Top Ten List for Resolution setters:

  1. Lose Weight
  2. Eat Healthier
  3. Better Financial Decisions
  4. Quit Smoking
  5. Work Out More Often
  6. Spend More Time With My Family
  7. Spend More Time With My Close Friends
  8. Do More Exciting Things
  9. Find A Better Job
  10. Learn Something New

How soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

Fast! Yes, the majority of New Year’s Resolutions are given up within the first two weeks after New Year’s Day. Each week more failed resolutions hop onto the bus ride to nowhere. By the end of the first month – what resolutions?  Ask people after two months what their New Year’s Resolutions were and many will not even be able to recall what theirs were!

Why does this take place every single year without fail?  Do you need proof?

Ask anyone in the fitness club industry.  The first week of January tends to be one of the single busiest weeks of the year for new visits and sign ups. Once the deposit is made and the year long contract signed the new fitness visitor is now a club member.  By February they may not visit the club more than once a month for the rest of the year, if that.

The one change taking place now in the fitness club industry are the low cost, no long-term contract fitness clubs. If they continue to make inroads into the fitness club industry they may change the industry, however, the first week of January will still be a heavy use week for newly minted to working out people.

How do you really stay on track and achieve what you set out to do?

Let’s start with a slight shift in thinking. Let’s not call what we want to achieve aNew Year’s Resolution.  Let’s call what we are setting out to do “Setting Our Course For The Year”.  We will be setting goals. Here are the ways to make certain you achieve the goals you set.

1.   Set a very specific goal. This means you do not set a goal like this – “Lose Weight”

The goal might be – “Lose Twenty Pounds This Year”.

2.   Write down your specific goal.

3.   Let people close to you know about your goal and how important it is to you.

4.   Join a group or work with someone who will hold you accountable.

5.   Use any type of planning system you want and reel back the year long specific goal into monthly specific smaller goals toward achieving the year long big goal. Use dates.

For the weight loss goal the first month might state on January 31 – “weigh myself and see the two pounds I lost this month”.

Let me state here these steps apply to any type of goals. It is not only for the weight loss goal.  If your goal is “To Learn To Speak Spanish This Year”. What might your monthly goals look like?  Potentially you have purchased a course online and there are various sections.  If there are twenty four sections your smaller monthly goal might be to complete the next two sections each month in order to complete the course by the end of the year.

6.   Conduct an end of each month review for all of the goals you set and where you are in progressing toward the year long goal. Write down the progress. Write down the year long goal next to it.

7.   Determine every three months if you are really committed to each of your year long goals. Make adjustments if necessary. This may mean you need to reel back on your year long goal or it may mean expanding and aiming higher.

In summary, follow these seven steps and you will be more likely to achieve your goals than if you do not. Be the one next year who set their goals and achieved them!

Do you want more guidance and tips around setting goals and achieving your goals? Be on the lookout for an email invitation to a no cost call on “Setting Your Course For The Year” coming this month in January.  Not on the mailing list?  


Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on Leadership and Communication Skill Enhancement, Business and Team Building, Executive Presence and Coaching. Based in Stamford, CT. Mitch partners with his clients to be their best all over the world.

Do you want one-on-one time working with Mitch to Set Your Course For The Year? Contact Mitch here.

Did You Go Out And Vote?

Did you go out and vote?This week Tuesday was Election Day in the USA and today (Friday) is Veteran’s Day. How fitting. I do not take for granted my right to vote. On Tuesday, without knowing who would be the winner in each race on my ballot in Connecticut I voted.

It is a duty to vote.

It is part of our freedom, a freedom no one should ever take for granted. The act of voting is a tribute to all of those who have fought and continue to protect our freedom and our continued ability to cast our votes.

“…if the citizens neglect their Duty and place unprincipled people in office, the government will soon be corrupted; laws will be made, not for the public good so much as for selfish or local purposes; corrupt or incompetent people will be appointed to execute the Laws; the public revenues will be squandered on unworthy people; and the rights of the citizen will be violated or disregarded.” -Noah Webster ( edited slightly utilizing ‘people’ vs. ‘men’ )

Consider those who serve to protect each of us to preserve our freedom. Every four years their Commander In Chief is up for re-election. The person who ultimately leads them. Each election period they are permitted to cast their vote – AND – no matter who wins the election – this person is their Commander In Chief for the next four years – PERIOD.

The astounding fact is – and remember during a Presidential Election there is a higher turnout of voters than in other election years – approximately 50 to 55% of the voting eligible population goes out and votes! This translates to approximately 45 to 50% who do not vote!

Consider Veteran’s Day folks – a day to remember and thank all who have served and continue to serve. Yes, thank each of them for their service. Say a prayer for those in areas of danger and for all of their families. Think about the fact that none of the people who have chosen to serve are for war – they are for freedom and everything that comes with securing our freedom.

The right to speak your mind may be the one which we hear about the most. How did going out to vote become minimized? If there is one thing each person is able to do it is to work together to make going out to vote as important to everyone as our freedom of speech.

This is the way we are able to vote for leaders who will point our nation in the right direction. We hope to elect leaders who will make the right choice in everything that is placed in front of them. We seek to vote for leaders who have high integrity and character.

We want to have leaders who will respect and uphold the Constitution and everything it represents which the founding fathers fought bravely to craft and pass on to all of us. Understand the choices on your ballot in your geographical region and go out and vote.

This great opportunity is typically a one time of year activity. It is our duty to vote.

Mitch Tublin runs a specialized consulting company where coaching, training and speaking services are available for companies and individuals.

Listen to Mitch’s recent radio interview by Doug Llewelyn from The People’s Court 


Do You Focus Anymore?

Do You Focus Anymore?It is possible one of the potential lost skills from the technology overload, along with the ability to have a face-to-face conversation in person, is the ability to focus on one specific item, project, idea – the point is one single thing.

The CEO of Fitbit, James Park, instituted a few rules in creating the right culture for his team. A meeting must have an agenda passed out prior to scheduling the meeting. Keep the meeting to the point. Fifty minutes is the maximum meeting length and most are completed in twenty minutes.

Stay with me here, one or two days a week, in the afternoon are designated as alone time with no meetings allowed. This permits people to focus on something that might need their full attention not only a few minutes here or there in between meetings and responding to emails.

A study conducted by a Family Foundation of youth aged 9 to 17 years old reported they were involved in technological distractions for 7 to 10 hours each day, every single day of the week. This is really frightening.

Before providing a few positive thoughts for you, has everyone seen the drivers who run the red light, do not stop for the stop sign and turn, without a care, for a right on red?

Yes, some are on the phone talking directly or texted, however, many others are distracted within their own mind and their own thoughts – hundreds maybe thousands of them. All of these thoughts swirling around creating an environment of constant distraction in each of their daily lives.

This had me thinking about F – O – C – U – S.



When you are fully in focus on one item – the feeling is best described as freedom. Time flies, there are no distractions, every piece of energy is flowing into this one item.


The person who has the ability to focus on one item – they get things done that matter. They are viewed as outstanding. It is not a contest. It is a fact. These are the doers.


An ability to focus clearly on one item for periods of time brings on a feeling of confidence. This is not to be confused with arrogance. It is the confidence in the ability to drive into the deadline with a quality result. The knowledge you are able to tackle anything that is going to be placed before you.


There is no need for extra descriptive language or long drawn out stories. The clarity which is brought out from focus provides succinct explanations which go right to the point. This is understood by everyone. By the wording there may be an appearance of the simplistic, however, in it’s stripped down clarity and right to the point descriptive no one is going to have a problem with it.


An ability to focus all of one’s energy for a period of time on one thing is at it’s root a survival instinct. Consider being attacked out in the wild, would this not consume you and have your entire focus or “Oh wait, butterflies…”.

Will technology cause the next evolution of humanity or will we be determined enough to regain our ability to focus?

Are you and your team ready to focus? Are you ready to commit to a process? Contact Mitch Here!

Mitch Tublin is the owner and founder of a consulting practice which includes coaching, training and professional speaking services to organizations all over the world.

What Costume Do You Wear?

Many people have been preparing for days, weeks, even months for the big day and maybe more importantly the big weekend right ahead. What would so many people put their time, energy, effort and money into? What else – a costume to wear for Halloween! This year the actual trick-or-treat day is on Monday. The weekend before will certainly be filled with parties to attend in full costume.

New York Costumes Halloween Adventure

Not too many years ago this was an activity for children in The Americas. A super hero, a law enforcement or fire fighter look alike, a soldier, a clown, a witch, a vampire, a bumble bee or even Frankenstein! There were endless choices. Now it is an adult ritual. In fact an entire industry has blossomed selling adult costumes!

Are you getting dressed up for a Halloween bash?

Go right now to the comments section and let us know what you will be dressed up as so we know who you are from across the room.

Here is the thing – are you authentic – are you real – in your daily business and personal life? OR – are you dressed up and in costume all of the time every day?

When in my first auditorium meeting with the entire entering class of the United States Merchant Marine Academy – after we were issued our gear, were yelled at, no screamed at, did numerous braces against the wall and push ups on the deck – we were all told to look to our right and to look to our left and understand that odds were only one of the three of us were going to graduate – period – actually we were told – it was a fact.

The statistics say the divorce rate in the United States is right around 50%. This means that every single time a couple gets married one out of two are going to be divorced. It seems clear to me – odds are great – that one or both of these folks are not being real, not being authentic in their relationship with the other person. Maybe even both of them are not being real and not being authentic. How does this happen?

We all have our personality – our behavior profile – which is who we are for real. Based upon a variety of circumstances and feedback from other people, some negative, some parts of this personality or behavior is selected to be hidden or tucked away. You may be shocked at how many people live this way for their entire lives!

Imagine for a moment if you really understood your personality and instead of hiding any aspect of it you were able to understand what other personalities exist in people and how you and they would be able to interact and get along better?

In my profession we utilize certain assessments to conduct this work. The results of the assessment combined with training permits people to excel to their highest levels in their personal lives and in business.

Ready to have your own assessment and review meeting or how about for your entire team? Contact Mitch Here!

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified personal and executive coach, trainer and speaker based in Stamford, CT.