Have You Looked In The Mirror Lately?

“You must ‘be’ before you can ‘do’ or ‘have'”.   ~ Paul J. Meyer 

Business Ever take the time to allow your mind to relax?  For me the sound of the ocean and walking in the sand is about as relaxing as it gets.  Your mind is wandering and thoughts seem to drift in and out.  What happens after this is a complete gift.  Once your mind is in the completely relaxed state without the daily distractions of email, cell phones and more, you have the opportunity to honestly appraise yourself.  Just “be”.

“Ok Mitch, uh be who, or be whom?”   Exactly!

“Okay, so what are you saying to do?”  Look at yourself in the mirror! 

No, this is not about how you look in your bathing suit! Or it very well might be. It is about who are you, what is it you want to achieve, what is your thing, really. Not the armored up version of you which you present yourself as, rather the real deal your real mission and purpose.  Then continue, what are you doing about it?  Are you living and acting in harmony with this answer?  Would your family, friends and co-workers agree with these statements and agree this is how you show up each and every day? 

It is actually never too late to start. If the reality is not consistent with your desired self what actions might you begin to take to turn this around?  The idea is to begin slowly.

This is habit change and behavior change.  Similar to a fad diet, if you drastically try to change everything you might be successful in the short term, yet there will not be lasting change.  Write everything down you are not satisfied with about yourself.  Rate these and prioritize the list.  Begin with the items which are the most important to you or will have the most significant impact.

Record what action you are taking next to the current habit or behavior you do not like.

Check in often with yourself to confirm you are in fact taking these actions and making these strides. When creating habit change and behavior change it has been proven that the most lasting method for implementing these is to have a coach or an accountability partner or both.  Through a schedule where you are meeting with each other at least each week or two on time and on schedule will assist greatly in a positive outcome.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.