Do You Have Grit?

Do you have grit?No matter where you live in the world this one fact is indisputable. The end of January is right upon us all next week.

Is this fact shocking to you? Are you asking yourself – where did this month go?

If you made some New Year’s Resolutions – how are they going? There is a saying: how you do anything is how you do everything. 

My guess is how you handled your January, how you handled your New Year’s Resolutions is how you are going to handle each month for the rest of this year and every goal setting or promise you make to yourself as you move forward.

What will it take for this not to be true? GRIT. That is right: GRIT.

Grit means to me how you describe a person who has the resolve, the determination, the strength of character to move through anything to get where they want to go or to achieve something difficult. This is what it takes to move through a list of goals toward one or more objectives.

Now this means the goals still have to be stated in the proper S.M.A.R.T. way. The progress or not toward meeting the goals must still be tracked. It still means the goals must actually be meaningful toward meeting one or more objectives (think – what is my Why?).

Grit means seeking out people who will hold you accountable and meeting or at least communicating with them regularly in a scheduled format. This is to hold you accountable – the missing ingredient for the majority of people who fail to achieve anything through their haphazard resolution or goal setting process.

The question remains for you to answer – Do You Have Grit?

Let’s see if you will get going now and get started –

  1. Write out your top three objectives you want to achieve this year for your personal life (3) and in your business or career (3).
  1. What exactly will you do starting next week toward achieving these?
  1. List out five people you will share this information with.
  1. Ask a person to be your accountability partner. A person who will agree to hold you accountable by meeting with you or communicating with you on a regularly scheduled basis.

Now show your grit. Follow these steps and you will be ready to grit it out this year.

If you are one of those scoffing at this process it is okay. I still love you. You just have no grit!

Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on Leadership Development, Business Consulting and Executive Coaching. With clients throughout the world the company is based in Stamford, CT.

Be on the lookout for a special call on goal setting. No cost. In fact you lose if you’re not on the call.

Would You Like To Have More Time?

Why don’t our goals or resolutions get accomplished? Many of my initial client conversations on this topic begin with –“No time! I really do not have any time for it!”

Really? Would you like to have more time?

Would you like to have more time?Think about how many demands there are on your time. We are all so really, so very busy people aren’t we? In fact, take a moment and either on your device or a good old pad of paper take note of the ten things pulling at your time right now. Quickly, just ten things – write them out.

How do you determine which items to address immediately and which are the ones that can wait until later? 

For many of us responding to a text or an email is a priority, Why is that? Seriously how did that happen?  What we are doing is allowing a demand on our time to jump our determined line of importance because a message has been delivered electronically!

Many of us will determine to address items in an order based upon the topic.

  1. A family emergency – this would take priority over most other items for many  people. An emergency is not that your nine year old daughter left her lunch on the school bus.  If you have an assistant hopefully they handled how she might buy lunch that day at school and you don’t even know about it at all until later.
  2. If you are in charge of a group of people, their leader, any time one of them has an important item to discuss with you or a situation where they may need your guidance or input, hopefully you have set up a way for their issue or concern to move right up to the top of your list. By responding with questions they will need to answer and essentially solve their problems themselves, over time, you will be contacted less and less often.
  3. Your role may be to bring in new business, or to handle any current client engagements, or you may be in charge of a project. Each day you should have regularly scheduled calls or meetings. However, if there is an issue you will want to deal with it as soon as possible and this must move up on your list.
  4. Maybe you are the business owner. A service based business or a retail business. Your number one priority has to be spending most of you time engaged in income producing activities. Period. There is no discussion. “Well, Mitch, you just don’t understand – my market – my business – my situation..…” 

Use the contact form here and tell your story. Let’s see it. 

At this point you get the idea, how do you set your own priorities for what you do first with your precious time? Now for anyone who is convinced they have zero time to work on or to devote to any new or bigger goals – here is your assignment.

For two weeks from the time you wake up in the morning until you go to bed each night, write down in a few words exactly what you did for the last twenty minutes. Period. Each and everyday for the next two weeks. For every single twenty minutes all day long. Bring this reporting with you to the table and review it with either a close, friend, your partner, spouse or executive coach and ask this question – 

“How much time do I have to spend on achieving bigger goals and my own personal development?”

My bet on you is hours!  As in hours each day!

Ready to Find It?

Mitch Tublin owns a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on leadership development, business consulting and executive coaching. Based in Stamford, CT they serve clients all over the world.

Setting Goals Is A Waste of Time! Right?

By now the majority of people, yes, each and every one of you, have sat through one or more goal setting seminars or workshops. 

You know the drill. There will be slides about S.M.A.R.T. goals and why this is very important. 

There will be a discussion about not giving up on your dreams and having great big goals. Someone might even ask the group, “How Do You Eat An Elephant?”  Answer – “One bite at a time.”   This may be true – what if you don’t eat meat! Seriously this is not meant to make fun of this important information.

All of our goals should be S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Here is the rub, with all of the articles and all of the books and all of the courses, why is goal setting looked at as a chore and worse yet as something that does not work and is a waste of time by so many people?  Why do so many goals which are set each year in December or January when revisited at some point are found to not be attained?

The reason is we all want to keep our goals to ourselves!

Setting Goals - Waste of Time?It is like we have a huge Do Not Enter sign up and no one is allowed to see our goals.

Now the goals we set should be for our career, our business and for our personal life and our families.  Why on earth do we feel these are private matters?

The best way to insure your goals are met is to create a method of accountability.

This may be accomplished in a variety of ways. You might have one or two people at work or on your advisory board for your business each share their goals with each other and have a regular meeting to hold each other accountable.  Unfortunately, this meeting will begin to take last place when a few weeks or months go by and then no one will be held accountable to each other.

You might have a close friend or family member set goals and you set goals and each of you agree to hold each other accountable.  Sad to say what often happens is each person will accept the excuses of the other person instead of pressing for the plan with each other due to the family relationship or friendship. Goal setting and attaining goals is not easy.

It works but it must be worked.

The absolute best way to set goals, achieve goals and move toward your bigger goals is to work with an experienced coach and a group which is guided through the process of goal setting, keeping accountable and continually communicating with the coach and others about your progress.

If you are ready to finally take charge of your goal setting, make certain you are signed up for my weekly newsletter. There will be a free call in December on goal setting. Yes, no charge. You must be signed up to receive the email which will announce the call information. 

Mitch Tublin owns a boutique consulting firm with a focus on leadership development, business strategy and executive coaching. Based in Stamford, CT with clients all over the globe.

 

The Secret to Success Is…

The Secret to Success Is...The Five Secrets to Your Success in Business!

The Three Secrets to Your Success in Life!

The Magical Secrets to Great Relationships!

Why are we all so caught up and inspired to find out the mysterious secrets to something? After all we know there must be a secret right?

Richard Branson was quoted in Entrepreneur Magazine in an article where he discussed the Five Secrets to Business Success. His five secrets as quoted in Entrepreneur were: “Enjoy What You Are Doing, Create Something That Stands Out, Create Something That Everyone Who Works For You Is Really Proud Of, Be A Good Leader, and Be Visible.” When you read through Branson’s descriptions in each area do you feel as if you are reading about a secret or are you saying to yourself, “Yes, right, this is common sense though?” Head scratch?

Don’t get me wrong. Richard Branson is great! Each of his points and the descriptions are right on target. Secrets though? Not so much.

From various sources here are the Three Secrets to Your Success in Life! Focus every bit of your energy into your passion, devote yourself to always embrace learning and growing and believe it is possible for you to achieve your big dreams. Again you are being asked the question, these are great tips and advice, but are they really secrets? More like common sense if you ask me!

What are the Magical Secrets to Great Relationships? Typically you would expect to see open communication, sacrifice, passionate, be a listener, show affection and others in this list. One key item, the secret is to live your life! Have great self-esteem and confidence in who you are and this will help you toward a great relationship. Take this entire paragraph in. Are these secrets or common sense?

If you opened up a box and inside was Aladdin’s Lamp. You rub the lamp and KaBOOM! The big genie pops out and asks you: “what do you want as you are granted three wishes?” My question for you is what are your three wishes? Use the comments area for this article and let me know.

Here is the next question: as you review your answer to what are your three wishes? Which of these three are you ready right now to take action toward reaching and achieving since neither of us has Aladdin’s Lamp do we?

Here is the real secret, the one secret to success:

Have a goal. Write it down. Tell others about your goal. Develop your plan of how you will achieve your goal. Be determined to follow your plan as you will have to overcome obstacles, naysayers, dead ends, failures and more and you will need to overcome each and everyone one of these. This is the real secret, the one secret to success.

Question: is this a secret or common sense? The secret is: who cares! If you follow through and take action this is what brings success. This is why there are fewer really successful people. The ones who take action are the ones who become successful. The real secret.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified coach, business consultant and professional speaker based in Stamford, CT.