As I mentioned in last week’s article “Build Your Wings On The Way” I’m trying something new by hosting my own event coming up on October 10, 2014 in Stamford, CT. Learn more here: http://www.mitchtublin.com/L2Stamford/ and check out the Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/L2Stamford. This event requires me to stretch and do something different.

So what is it about change we don’t like? It has been proven over and over again in the business world when change is introduced the backlash is huge. In fact, huger than huge. Huger may not even be a word, but that is how huge the backlash typically is when change is introduced.

By and large in the last ten years or more the change has been in the way technology is changing the way work is executed. Technology is changing the need for paper, filing paper, retrieving paper, communicating with each other and the list goes on and on. Entire departments of people have been erased from company after company. Initially many resisted change.

The fact is at the rawest level we despise change. Each of us become comfortable in our own skin. We know what we are really good at doing and we know what we basically are not good at doing, except the CEO, they are always great at everything, ask them and they will tell you.

All of us have issues with change because of a few areas we all deal with. We all have baggage. The baggage we acquire growing up. This might be in the form of low self-esteem, fear of failure, being a perfectionist, a need to please, and more. Negative self talk prevents us from changing for the better through internal whispers like, “Who do you think you are? You can’t do that or be that.”

Instead we form a comfort zone around us to keep us from changing.

Even though many of us know deep down and see from what a few others have done, when change is implemented and followed through the results are nothing short of amazing!

What it takes to change ourselves for the better are specifically three things.

• First is we must believe and trust our self. This must be an unwavering belief and trust in our own judgment, views and belief in self.
• Second is we must have commitment. It is only through a solid commitment to change which will carry each of us through the obstacles which will certainly be there for us to overcome.
• Third is courage. The courage to admit to ourselves we must change where we are weak.

Where are we in our life that we are not serving ourselves well? Take this on and the returns are immense. Start with a small, reachable and attainable goal. Go on from there. The rewards are sweet.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.