Your Dreams and Goals

We all have dreams and goals don’t we? How do we move toward achieving them?

dreams-and-goalsThere you stand right at the foot of a stair case. You want to get up to the next floor. You need to get up to the next floor. You intend to go up to the next floor. This should not be a shock to you or anyone else, you must actually take the first step up the stairs before you get yourself any closer to the next floor. Then you must take the next step and the next step. This example is a physical example and most people would be able to accomplish this goal of getting to the next level.

Another physical example is going to workout on a regular basis. There is a study which shows even among people who have been told they must exercise for their health there is a high percentage who do not regularly go to exercise. A number of people do find that working with a personal trainer, where they have an appointment and have already invested in the trainer working with them, provides the accountability necessary to get them to workout. There is still a dramatic falloff after the first 60 to 90 days.

Therefore it is no wonder when we are speaking about following through on our dreams or even our goals the majority of people take no action steps toward either.

At the most basic level, if you have a thought or a dream, how are you capturing this thought, this dream, before it goes away from your current awareness and you say things like, “I cannot remember it.” A few solutions would be to speak the thought or dream into your mobile device and record it, have a pen and a pad to write on by your bedside or near you at all times. Many people practice the skill of journaling. At a specific time each day for a specific period of time they write in a journal.

Once the thoughts or dreams are captured, albeit by a small population, the review of these must take place to determine priority, reality and interest. This process is the first time certain influences may trap you. Fear, your predisposed assumptions and other influences may take you in a direction not true to your heart. You might be thinking, “Oh no way, I must play it safe. I am not doing that, ever.” Unless there is a trained professional to challenge you and your self talk, this is going to be how you respond to the majority of your thoughts and dreams.

Tell me, how do you overcome your self talk when a part of you wants to move toward a big dream?

Mitch Tublin is an advanced, certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.

Ever Build Your Own House or Build Your Own Business?

Think this over even if you have never built your own house from the ground up.
Let’s follow the process. You have a dream of a house you just know is your dream house. You wouldn’t just build this house anywhere so you begin to look around at geographically where do you want to live in your dream house. You then need to determine which neighborhood, street and lot location, based upon availability.
No arguments so far, right?
You might begin to look for the right architect or builder or both at this point. You might get into the permitting and zoning process or have an attorney start to get into the process with you, your architect and your builder.
Would you begin to buy your tile floor for the kitchen right now or the couch you envision in the family room? I doubt it!
Some of the discussions with the architect and builder include the plans, the materials you will use for the framework, the windows, doors, exterior, decks, roof, style of home and more. The experts may steer you convincingly toward other options you didn’t consider and maybe do not even need or want.
Are you purchasing lighting fixtures for the Master Bathroom right now while you are having these discussions?
There is much more to this story and maybe I will continue on one day in the near future. The point of the story up until this point is does the thought process make sense and seem sound to you? Let’s see how this might relate to your business and how you think and what you do in your business shall we?
Your dream house might be compared to your dream for your business. The geography and where you locate your business might be similar to your niche and the street you choose to live on might be compared to the ideal client you determine you work with. Are you following along?
The permitting and zoning process might be similar to your need to legally establish your business by Inc. or LLC or similar and other legal and tax registrations.
It is at this point one might start being tempted to purchase trick systems or the famous bright shiney objects. This is why I ask the question would you buy the tile floor for your kitchen?
For the house you hired your architect and your builder. For your business these might be your web developer, graphic designer or copywriter. Do you clearly have a vision of what you want for your business and a plan, as you would for your house, or are you being sold some items you do not really need? Does it makes sense to spend $10k on your website and membership programs when you do not have one single customer?
Hopefully this analogy provides you with a wake up call of sorts for where you are in your business and what you might consider waiting to do versus what you are doing right now and why?