How do You Speak With People?

Overheard a conversation this morning in the health club locker room. There is a regular group of plus 70 year olds who meet most days and walk, chat and then go out to breakfast. One of the guys was commenting how he recalled saying to his Dad once that he did not realize his name wasn’t ‘blockhead’ until he was twelve years old. Okay a few generations ago as he is pushing 80 so we are speaking about 70 years ago.
This story brought to mind the subject of how do we speak to others? How do we speak with our family members, co-workers, clients, customers, etc?
What is your story? How do you find people speak with you?