There is absolutely no doubt when you are determined to obtain something, you will have it. Which is why it never ceases to amaze me when witnessing how much time and effort average people, just like you and me, put into being miserable, mean, mosh pits of wasted space on this planet! They walk around with this twisted face. Many growl at you – they growl – not speak. Nothing is ever good enough. If it’s a cloudy day, the sun is never out. If it’s sunny, it is always too hot. It never ends.

Now please don’t get me wrong, my view is to always give people the best foot forward report card. It is always my assumption that most people mean well and wish to proceed and be of service and add value to others. Unfortunately, in the report card of life, it just is not the reality now is it?

For Example, just today, there was a huge disruption on the commuter train line, Metro North, from Stamford, CT to Grand Central Station in Manhattan ( New York City ).

In terms of volume, of the three lines which Metro North operates, the Stamford Station is by far the single busiest station. People were losing their minds. Even as a train or two was provided for a short term solution, everyone packed aboard the train and jostled with others for a seat for the usual fifty two minute ride into NYC.  By no means is it my suggestion to somehow figure out how to be happy about these circumstances. The point is, “Do you have to become miserable about it?” After all, isn’t everyone else here going through the same thing? Now by your behavior you add to everyone else’s experience by your verbal and other displays of your personal misery. Are you seriously thinking you are the only person who is going to be late for an appointment or for work or for something? Do you seriously think you are the only person considering how they are going to be able to return home at the end of the day if this is not repaired?

When we determine how we will show up each day, it is our duty to ourselves and our fellow inhabitants on the planet earth to intentionally show up happy. It will be difficult at times when being influenced by others to keep the happy face on. Try. This is a habit worth working on so it becomes a state of mind. Believe me when admitting it has not been easy for me either. We all have our moments. Let’s just try to reduce the amount of times we display our unhappiness and strive to increase the amount of times we display our happiness.

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.”

– Earl Nightingale

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.