Are You Working With Affirmations?

affirmationsThere are various opinions and schools of thought on the use of affirmations. There are some who refer to affirmations as ‘New Age’ thinking. Others who say “Nothing is going to happen just because you hope it happens.” For those who are in this camp – there you are – you have been recognized!

The reality is that affirmations are part of what Anthony Robbins (as in Tony Robbins of the famous walk on the hot coals events) teaches and is referenced in Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). Well known classic books discuss the concepts and benefits of positive affirmations – Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles.

The use of positive affirmations helps us to create a positive mental attitude. 

In actual use positive affirmations are written out and placed in a location where the statement will be seen first thing in the morning each day. This will trigger us to say the positive affirmation out loud each day to begin our day.

For those who require a little more scientific support feel free to research the topic of ‘how much of the human brain is utilized’ question. Read through the information and take note of the part which refers to:

Perhaps the broadest, most mysterious question is how diverse regions of the brain collaborate to form conscious experiences. To date, there is no evidence that there is one site for consciousness, which leads experts to believe that it is truly a collective neural effort. Therefore, the idea exists that humans have untapped cognitive potential…

Add into the mix the fact that we – all humans – learn best through ‘spaced repetition’. This is especially true when the senses are brought into play. Where reading an item is combined with hearing the item read and potentially watching the item presented via a video. Multiple repetitions and multi-sensory.

An affirmation may be on a specific topic. Affirmations may be from a book or another written work which is meaningful to us. Should one desire to create their own affirmation, keep in mind that it needs to be present tense, positive, personal and specific.

Here are a few affirmations to get you started:

  • I love and approve of myself
  • I matter and what I have to offer this world also matters
  • I breathe in calmness and breathe out nervousness
  • I am aligned with the energy of abundance
  • I play a big role in my own career success
  • I choose to fully participate in my day
  • I let go of worries that drain my energy

Feel free to work with these or find others you connect with better. You may wish to craft your own positive affirmations.

Write out a few of these and place the index card or PostIt note where you will see it to read aloud first thing in the morning each day. Write out another index card in order to carry it with you in order to read out loud a few times each day. Stick with this process for at least sixty to ninety days. At the very least, you will feel better each day when you start your day.

Do you have a personal favorite positive affirmation? Place it in the comments.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive coach who resides in Stamford,CT.

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Do You Take Action?

There is something about taking action that stirs things up. Yet often, the taking action part, does not happen at all or if it does, it is not soon enough.

There is a story in an email going around, maybe you saw it, where Jack Canfield refers to his speaking engagements where he is standing on the stage with a $100 bill in an outstretched hand. “Who wants this?” He asks the audience. Many people raise their hands. At some point a person from the audience gets up on the stage and takes the $100 bill from his hand. The person from the audience took action.

My question is what stopped everyone else from taking this specific action? Was it a behavior model drilled into their heads for years – “No, No, No – you don’t get up in the middle of a show or presentation and go up on the stage!” What was the reason? Would you have stood up and gone up to Jack Canfield on the stage and taken the $100 bill from his outstretched hand? Write your comment in the comments section.

Please do not scoff at the notion that we were not brainwashed to some extent in our younger days. Of course much of what many of us were taught turned us into good citizens.

phone booth“Respect your elders.”

“Help those in need.”

“Give up your seat to a pregnant woman.”

However, some other often heard statements, upon reflection, make me wonder?

“The Early bird gets the worm?”

“Good things come to those who wait?”

“Speak when spoken to?”

“Always carry some change with you for the pay phone?”  (Do these even exist anymore?)

How about you? Were there certain phrases or often heard statements which you may need to consider over-coming the impression they made upon you?

Positive Affirmations are a great way to overcome negative thoughts or past ideas in our heads. Read this article on creating Positive Affirmations. Another way to stir up activity and move past lingering negativity is to take action. Even the action of setting one or two goals would be a great step. Write the goal or goals out on index cards and have these with you all day.

Enter these goals on your laptop, send the goal or goals to yourself in an email. Place a date and a time next to each of the goals for when you are going to achieve it. Tell others you know about your goal or goals and why it is important to you and when you are going to achieve them. You might be able to tell there is much more to come in terms of goal setting and attaining goals. The point is, it starts with taking the action!

Is there something you should be taking action on and you have not? Why not? Let’s go!

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.

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Three Winning Moves For You In The New Year

three-winning-movesBy now everyone has given up on their New Year’s Resolutions and if not we all will within the next week or two – Guaranteed!

With no real motivation and accountability changing habits and behavior are virtually impossible. Allow me to offer an idea for you. Take on my suggestions for the New Year instead of making up your own.

Here are three winning moves for you in the New Year.

ONE:        Supportive Friends

TWO:       Positive Outlook

THREE:   Self Censorship 

Supportive Friends

Okay so you have known this person or a specific group of people for many years. The last few years you feel you have been growing and learning and this group of friends seems to be stuck in their own stuff. They are always questioning you about why you choose to do what you are doing? Each time you speak with them or meet with them or go out with them you find yourself depressed the next day.

Time to say good-bye! Either cut the cord or slowly wean yourself from this group of friends. They need to be replaced with people who are more supportive and positive toward you and what you are thinking about, learning and growing as an individual.

There are a few companies who follow this rule – the bottom fifteen percent of employees based upon certain performance measures are let go every single year.

Positive Outlook

When you begin each day with a positive outlook, a positive frame up of the day ahead, you will be in a better mood, a better state of energy and you will think more clearly. Bottom line you will perform more effectively and efficiently. A way to make this happen on a regular basis is to utilize positive affirmations.

Positive affirmations actually reprogram your patterns of thought. They change the way you feel and think about almost everything. Positive change happens naturally as you have replaced negative thinking with your new positive thoughts and statements.

Create a series of positively worded affirmations and have these either on your electronic device or utilize index cards so these are available to you each and everyday to read and state aloud especially first thing in the morning.

Self Censorship

You may be a TV or Cable TV person or subscribe to online feeds where each minute of the day you are bombarded with negative news stories or horrifying or sad incidents.

STOP IT! STOP IT NOW! You must be your own best censor. Either select a few defined minutes of each day to get your fill of these stories or stop listening to or reading these stories from this point forward. There is not one piece of positive energy flowing to you while you are absorbing this negative information in a multi-sensory environment.

These Three Winning Moves For You In The New Year will have an immediate and tremendous impact on your business life and your personal life. In fact, Psychologist John Gottman at the University of Washington, found that there is a method of self measurement, like a thermostat operating in healthy marriages that regulates the balance between positive and negative. He found that relationships run into serious troubles when the negative to positive ratio becomes quite imbalanced. Gottman found that the optimal ratio is five positive to one negative.

In summary, the point is we can change our habits, and we can focus on the positive aspects of life in everything we do. When we acquire new habits, our brains acquire “mirror neurons” and develop a positive perspective that can spread to other people like a virus. This is not about a bunch of ‘WooWoo’ stuff or ‘GoodyTwoShoes’, it is about being able to reprogram our brains!

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.

Create a Mindset Renewal for Mindset Success

Are you interested in going places you have not been to before in your mindset, your attitude and your belief system? A mindset renewal, if you will. If you are ready, let’s do it and go there. Let’s develop a way to stay in the mindset you want and need to succeed.

Let’s discuss some of the foundation and history of your mindset before we begin. Our minds are programmed to think negative thoughts. The majority of us, beginning at age five, heard “No” or “Don’t do that” more often than any positive statements by a large margin. Some examples: “Don’t cross the street”, “Don’t touch that, you will break it”, “Don’t eat that until later”, or “Don’t wear that now, we are going to visit…

These negative statements were constantly stated to us by a factor of eight or nine times vs. any positive feedback or positive statements we heard from anyone – ever. Every single day, for many years, negative statements outnumbered the positive statements. During our time in school this pattern continued, “No Talking”, “No loitering here”, “No Parking Here”, or “No loud music allowed”.

There are multiple purposes for the utilization of positive affirmations. One of these is to overcome the negative programming instilled in our minds for years. This will take persistent and consistent work. Positive affirmations provide a pep talk to each of us whenever we need it. By taking the time to plan ahead and create a few positive affirmation cards, and carrying these with us or placing them in strategic locations we will always have a positive affirmation to read aloud. This is our self talk pep talk. You might place these on your iPhone or other electronic device as well.

Here are a few options for you when it comes to positive affirmations. If you feel you are not ready to write your own positive affirmations, think of a few names of people you find inspiring and utilize their quotes for your positive affirmations.

An example would be a quote from Jim Rohn, “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.”

Now you rewrite this quote to become your positive affirmation, “I am living my happiness every single moment of every single day.”

Another example might be this quote from Orison Swett Marden, “Don’t wait for extraordinary opportunities. seize common occasions and make them great.”

You might rewrite this quote to become your positive affirmation, “I will find opportunities in everything I experience throughout the day today, and every day.”

My suggestion is to create a few dozen of these positive affirmations in your first month of practicing this mindset renewal. Read these aloud or to yourself, often throughout the day. You will feel better about your day and your approach to your day as more time is invested in this practice.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified personal and executive coach who resides in Stamford, CT.