You Set Them And Then Forget Them!

New Year’s Resolutions! Of course you do – so does almost everyone else!

Setting 2017 New Years ResolutionsHow soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

The answer will be given shortly, first check out what are typically in the Top Ten List for Resolution setters:

  1. Lose Weight
  2. Eat Healthier
  3. Better Financial Decisions
  4. Quit Smoking
  5. Work Out More Often
  6. Spend More Time With My Family
  7. Spend More Time With My Close Friends
  8. Do More Exciting Things
  9. Find A Better Job
  10. Learn Something New

How soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

Fast! Yes, the majority of New Year’s Resolutions are given up within the first two weeks after New Year’s Day. Each week more failed resolutions hop onto the bus ride to nowhere. By the end of the first month – what resolutions?  Ask people after two months what their New Year’s Resolutions were and many will not even be able to recall what theirs were!

Why does this take place every single year without fail?  Do you need proof?

Ask anyone in the fitness club industry.  The first week of January tends to be one of the single busiest weeks of the year for new visits and sign ups. Once the deposit is made and the year long contract signed the new fitness visitor is now a club member.  By February they may not visit the club more than once a month for the rest of the year, if that.

The one change taking place now in the fitness club industry are the low cost, no long-term contract fitness clubs. If they continue to make inroads into the fitness club industry they may change the industry, however, the first week of January will still be a heavy use week for newly minted to working out people.

How do you really stay on track and achieve what you set out to do?

Let’s start with a slight shift in thinking. Let’s not call what we want to achieve aNew Year’s Resolution.  Let’s call what we are setting out to do “Setting Our Course For The Year”.  We will be setting goals. Here are the ways to make certain you achieve the goals you set.

1.   Set a very specific goal. This means you do not set a goal like this – “Lose Weight”

The goal might be – “Lose Twenty Pounds This Year”.

2.   Write down your specific goal.

3.   Let people close to you know about your goal and how important it is to you.

4.   Join a group or work with someone who will hold you accountable.

5.   Use any type of planning system you want and reel back the year long specific goal into monthly specific smaller goals toward achieving the year long big goal. Use dates.

For the weight loss goal the first month might state on January 31 – “weigh myself and see the two pounds I lost this month”.

Let me state here these steps apply to any type of goals. It is not only for the weight loss goal.  If your goal is “To Learn To Speak Spanish This Year”. What might your monthly goals look like?  Potentially you have purchased a course online and there are various sections.  If there are twenty four sections your smaller monthly goal might be to complete the next two sections each month in order to complete the course by the end of the year.

6.   Conduct an end of each month review for all of the goals you set and where you are in progressing toward the year long goal. Write down the progress. Write down the year long goal next to it.

7.   Determine every three months if you are really committed to each of your year long goals. Make adjustments if necessary. This may mean you need to reel back on your year long goal or it may mean expanding and aiming higher.

In summary, follow these seven steps and you will be more likely to achieve your goals than if you do not. Be the one next year who set their goals and achieved them!

Do you want more guidance and tips around setting goals and achieving your goals? Be on the lookout for an email invitation to a no cost call on “Setting Your Course For The Year” coming this month in January.  Not on the mailing list?  


Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on Leadership and Communication Skill Enhancement, Business and Team Building, Executive Presence and Coaching. Based in Stamford, CT. Mitch partners with his clients to be their best all over the world.

Do you want one-on-one time working with Mitch to Set Your Course For The Year? Contact Mitch here.

Setting Goals Is A Waste of Time! Right?

By now the majority of people, yes, each and every one of you, have sat through one or more goal setting seminars or workshops. 

You know the drill. There will be slides about S.M.A.R.T. goals and why this is very important. 

There will be a discussion about not giving up on your dreams and having great big goals. Someone might even ask the group, “How Do You Eat An Elephant?”  Answer – “One bite at a time.”   This may be true – what if you don’t eat meat! Seriously this is not meant to make fun of this important information.

All of our goals should be S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Here is the rub, with all of the articles and all of the books and all of the courses, why is goal setting looked at as a chore and worse yet as something that does not work and is a waste of time by so many people?  Why do so many goals which are set each year in December or January when revisited at some point are found to not be attained?

The reason is we all want to keep our goals to ourselves!

Setting Goals - Waste of Time?It is like we have a huge Do Not Enter sign up and no one is allowed to see our goals.

Now the goals we set should be for our career, our business and for our personal life and our families.  Why on earth do we feel these are private matters?

The best way to insure your goals are met is to create a method of accountability.

This may be accomplished in a variety of ways. You might have one or two people at work or on your advisory board for your business each share their goals with each other and have a regular meeting to hold each other accountable.  Unfortunately, this meeting will begin to take last place when a few weeks or months go by and then no one will be held accountable to each other.

You might have a close friend or family member set goals and you set goals and each of you agree to hold each other accountable.  Sad to say what often happens is each person will accept the excuses of the other person instead of pressing for the plan with each other due to the family relationship or friendship. Goal setting and attaining goals is not easy.

It works but it must be worked.

The absolute best way to set goals, achieve goals and move toward your bigger goals is to work with an experienced coach and a group which is guided through the process of goal setting, keeping accountable and continually communicating with the coach and others about your progress.

If you are ready to finally take charge of your goal setting, make certain you are signed up for my weekly newsletter. There will be a free call in December on goal setting. Yes, no charge. You must be signed up to receive the email which will announce the call information. 

Mitch Tublin owns a boutique consulting firm with a focus on leadership development, business strategy and executive coaching. Based in Stamford, CT with clients all over the globe.


Time To Set 2016 Goals

Setting Goals in 2016If you have not set goals yet for 2016 in December – what exactly are you waiting for?

“Insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.”  – Attributed to Albert Einstein

We all know we must set goals for ourselves, our family and in our careers or business. This should never be a once a year activity. In reality we have our why – our big dream or wish. Our goals should be set to help take us toward our why.

My good friend, Paul Martinelli, the President of The John Maxwell Team, recent said to me that – “people who set goals which are for things they know they can do and can achieve – well they have already lost – they have given up!” The point of setting goals is to challenge us to take ourselves on a journey. If we want to tread water everyday for ten hours a day, then we should go do that.

For each goal there must be a timeline and a purpose. Each goal must be consistent with moving us toward our why. Some of the goals may seem almost out of reach and may have you questioning yourself a bit – ‘how am I going to do that one?’.

This is a thought that needs to be erased!

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Zig Ziglar

Where many of us fall off the wagon on our goal achievement is either not creating an accountability process, or sticking with a plan which isn’t serving us and refusing to change the plan, or both of these!

Another key aspect of goal setting is to revisit our goals regularly throughout the year. For some people or businesses this is done once each quarter. For numerous entrepreneurs, a reality check should be conducted at the end of each month.

“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps. – Confucius

There are so many great books on goal setting and probably a number of not so good ones as well! Let’s recap in this short article the main points.

  • First is always start out the year with goals
  • Know your why – your big dream or idea – and if not – write it out
  • Our goals should challenge us
  • Goals must have a timeline, a purpose
  • We must create a process of accountability
  • Revisit our goals throughout the year and adjust our action steps first

Be Intentional each day – get started with the 7 Day Experiment with John C. Maxwell.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced, certified coach, speaker and business consultant who resides in Stamford, CT.

Where Is Your North Pole?

“A goal is a dream with a deadline.” – Napoleon Hill

When you Google ‘goal setting’ the return is 27,000,000 results. A fairly significant number! The reality is goal setting does matter. The question for you is – how does this inforation help me? You that is!

Some folks say they are not really into goal setting. Let life happen is their often repeated mantra. Fine for them! Is it possible no one ever shared with them how to set goals and the critical importance of setting a goal?

“In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily acts of trivia.”

Let’s begin with a sea story – my personal favorite is always a sea story. If we go to a time and place when electronic navigation did not exist. All navigation was executed by utilizing charts, the sun and the stars.

“To Reach a Port, We Must Sail – Sail, not tie at Anchor – Sail, not Drift.”  – Franklin Roosevelt

For most people, even the casual boater, the fact that the True North Pole is not in the same location as The Magnetic North Pole does not matter. For a short trip where you would like to know kinda sorta where north is – so the two north pole locations will not materially make a difference to you in your journey.


However, if you were taking a longer journey for a greater distance, the fact that True North and Magnetic North are not in the same location would have a significant impact on your navigation and potentially your location and timely arrival to your destination.

If one of the tools being utilized is a compass with a free standing Magnetic arrow pointer in order to effectively determine which direction, which course will take you toward your destination. Let’s assume you want to head north. Not a specific location – only head north. You may not be aware of this – the free standing compass is a magnet – it is this magnet which will point general toward the earth’s ‘magnetic north’. There remains a considerable amount of distance between the Magnetic North Pole and the True North Pole.

“If you don’t know where you are going, you will end up someplace else.”  – Yogi Berra

Let’s now think about how we set goals as opposed to having a big huge dream. A dream remains a dream until we define small achievable goals with a date attached which move us toward our dream. Similar to taking one small step at a time to climb up a long steep staircase, it is worth it to determine small wins along the planned route. By plotting these points along the way we are able to determine if and when course changes are necessary. If our ultimate dream or big goal changes we need to adjust our smaller attainable goals to now move toward this big goal. During this process having someone to speak with to provide accountability, to provide encouragement and to double check if we are on track is invaluable.

This is very similar to goal setting and not finding setting goals to be important. When we take our eye off of where we are, where we want to go and then compare the results to reality – this is how we end up getting lost, confused and potentially nowhere near achieving our goals. When we are working with someone so we have a regular reality check, when we make course corrections, when we adjust our big goals for where we are now in life, all of this combined is how we move ahead and obtain our goals.

Consider taking steps each day to create “Intentional Living” – Be intentional and click HERE.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive coach, trainer and speaker who resides in Stamford, CT.


Unrealistic Expectations

expectationsThere are numerous studies which state that 8 out 10 entrepreneurs who start a business fail within the first 18 months. Bloomberg for example makes this case – meaning 80% of these businesses are toast within a year and a half.

There are numerous reasons why this happens. When asked, many of these entrepreneurs will say they ran out of money. Although in fact this may be true, my thought is there were a few things which happened earlier which might have changed the outcome.

A question one of my coaching clients might be asked at some point by me: “What amount of money would you like to set this year or next year as your target?” More often than not an answer might be something along the lines of: “One million dollars!” My response is: “Okay, great, by the way how much is the most you have ever made in any one year in your entire lifetime?” The silence is deafening! Allow me to re-phrase the question: “Have you ever earned over six figures in your own business of any type ever before?” For many there is still silence. A few might say once or twice they have achieved it.

My next question is: “Would you consider a more realistic or achievable target of possibly 50% more than your best one year total ever working in your own business instead?” The point of this conversation is to not allow the thought of a near term unachievable goal become the driving force behind the operation.  It is not my intent to become a dream killer. It is to allow the dream to become a reality.

If the “One Million Dollar” mark has to be there then let’s move the target date to achieve that type of number out a few years so it becomes a more realistic and achievable goal. A sure way to doom the enthusiasm of an entrepreneur and their team is to set the bar so high they will have absolutely no chance of hitting it.

In a world where everything is able to be measured and reported rapidly and easily, it would become quite obvious to everyone, unless the business was a miracle business opportunity, that the far reaching unrealistic expectation would never be achieved. It is far wiser to select a stretch goal with a bit of wonder and fear attached to it which would still be attainable than to set an unreachable goal.  The entrepreneur and their team would be able to see the results moving toward the goal and potentially shift one or two things along the way to improve results in order to achieve the goal. This is how momentum and a driving spirit are created and maintained. This is one item to consider early on in setting up your business and revisit at least once each year.

Mitch Tublin is a business consultant, advanced certified personal and executive coach and a professional speaker based in Stamford, CT.

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Are You Goal-less?

Are you goal-lessSome people are not interested in setting a goal. They tell me they do not want to write out their goals or talk about their goals. In case you are interested words that come to mind as the opposite of the word goal are: aimlessness, avoidance, heedlessness, negligence, purposelessness and thoughtlessness. There may be more words.

This entire line of thinking is amazing to me. How can you not have at least one single goal? How are you going to hit the target when you are not aiming at the target? In fact you are saying “the target does not even exist!”

Taking this one step further, how are you going to measure your productivity or measure if what you might be working on is getting the results you wish to achieve without a clearly written out goal? How would you be able to take corrective action in time without the ability to effectively measure ongoing performance?

Let’s reel this back into a daily activity to prove the value of a small goal. Let’s assume you know you are going to attend a networking event where there may be anywhere from fifty to one hundred attendees. During the days prior to the event by taking the time to conduct some research, you should be able to figure out who will be attending this event.

Where the goal comes into play, is to set the goal to meet and speak with a specific list of twelve people in order to connect with them, and then to follow up to meet with them again one on one. If instead no time was spent conducting research and no time was spent analyzing beforehand and setting up a goal, there would be no certainty of what contacts might be made at this event at all.

Intentional relationship building is my name for this effort. It is networking with purpose and thought. This is not to say you cannot meet someone randomly. You may do exactly that and this person may turn out to become one of your best clients or referral sources – you never know. The point is to at the very least start out with plan and then take it from there with experience and knowledge.

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Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.