You Set Them And Then Forget Them!

New Year’s Resolutions! Of course you do – so does almost everyone else!

Setting 2017 New Years ResolutionsHow soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

The answer will be given shortly, first check out what are typically in the Top Ten List for Resolution setters:

  1. Lose Weight
  2. Eat Healthier
  3. Better Financial Decisions
  4. Quit Smoking
  5. Work Out More Often
  6. Spend More Time With My Family
  7. Spend More Time With My Close Friends
  8. Do More Exciting Things
  9. Find A Better Job
  10. Learn Something New

How soon are New Year’s Resolutions given up on?

Fast! Yes, the majority of New Year’s Resolutions are given up within the first two weeks after New Year’s Day. Each week more failed resolutions hop onto the bus ride to nowhere. By the end of the first month – what resolutions?  Ask people after two months what their New Year’s Resolutions were and many will not even be able to recall what theirs were!

Why does this take place every single year without fail?  Do you need proof?

Ask anyone in the fitness club industry.  The first week of January tends to be one of the single busiest weeks of the year for new visits and sign ups. Once the deposit is made and the year long contract signed the new fitness visitor is now a club member.  By February they may not visit the club more than once a month for the rest of the year, if that.

The one change taking place now in the fitness club industry are the low cost, no long-term contract fitness clubs. If they continue to make inroads into the fitness club industry they may change the industry, however, the first week of January will still be a heavy use week for newly minted to working out people.

How do you really stay on track and achieve what you set out to do?

Let’s start with a slight shift in thinking. Let’s not call what we want to achieve aNew Year’s Resolution.  Let’s call what we are setting out to do “Setting Our Course For The Year”.  We will be setting goals. Here are the ways to make certain you achieve the goals you set.

1.   Set a very specific goal. This means you do not set a goal like this – “Lose Weight”

The goal might be – “Lose Twenty Pounds This Year”.

2.   Write down your specific goal.

3.   Let people close to you know about your goal and how important it is to you.

4.   Join a group or work with someone who will hold you accountable.

5.   Use any type of planning system you want and reel back the year long specific goal into monthly specific smaller goals toward achieving the year long big goal. Use dates.

For the weight loss goal the first month might state on January 31 – “weigh myself and see the two pounds I lost this month”.

Let me state here these steps apply to any type of goals. It is not only for the weight loss goal.  If your goal is “To Learn To Speak Spanish This Year”. What might your monthly goals look like?  Potentially you have purchased a course online and there are various sections.  If there are twenty four sections your smaller monthly goal might be to complete the next two sections each month in order to complete the course by the end of the year.

6.   Conduct an end of each month review for all of the goals you set and where you are in progressing toward the year long goal. Write down the progress. Write down the year long goal next to it.

7.   Determine every three months if you are really committed to each of your year long goals. Make adjustments if necessary. This may mean you need to reel back on your year long goal or it may mean expanding and aiming higher.

In summary, follow these seven steps and you will be more likely to achieve your goals than if you do not. Be the one next year who set their goals and achieved them!

Do you want more guidance and tips around setting goals and achieving your goals? Be on the lookout for an email invitation to a no cost call on “Setting Your Course For The Year” coming this month in January.  Not on the mailing list?  

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Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting firm with a main focus on Leadership and Communication Skill Enhancement, Business and Team Building, Executive Presence and Coaching. Based in Stamford, CT. Mitch partners with his clients to be their best all over the world.

Do you want one-on-one time working with Mitch to Set Your Course For The Year? Contact Mitch here.

Setting Goals Is A Waste of Time! Right?

By now the majority of people, yes, each and every one of you, have sat through one or more goal setting seminars or workshops. 

You know the drill. There will be slides about S.M.A.R.T. goals and why this is very important. 

There will be a discussion about not giving up on your dreams and having great big goals. Someone might even ask the group, “How Do You Eat An Elephant?”  Answer – “One bite at a time.”   This may be true – what if you don’t eat meat! Seriously this is not meant to make fun of this important information.

All of our goals should be S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Here is the rub, with all of the articles and all of the books and all of the courses, why is goal setting looked at as a chore and worse yet as something that does not work and is a waste of time by so many people?  Why do so many goals which are set each year in December or January when revisited at some point are found to not be attained?

The reason is we all want to keep our goals to ourselves!

Setting Goals - Waste of Time?It is like we have a huge Do Not Enter sign up and no one is allowed to see our goals.

Now the goals we set should be for our career, our business and for our personal life and our families.  Why on earth do we feel these are private matters?

The best way to insure your goals are met is to create a method of accountability.

This may be accomplished in a variety of ways. You might have one or two people at work or on your advisory board for your business each share their goals with each other and have a regular meeting to hold each other accountable.  Unfortunately, this meeting will begin to take last place when a few weeks or months go by and then no one will be held accountable to each other.

You might have a close friend or family member set goals and you set goals and each of you agree to hold each other accountable.  Sad to say what often happens is each person will accept the excuses of the other person instead of pressing for the plan with each other due to the family relationship or friendship. Goal setting and attaining goals is not easy.

It works but it must be worked.

The absolute best way to set goals, achieve goals and move toward your bigger goals is to work with an experienced coach and a group which is guided through the process of goal setting, keeping accountable and continually communicating with the coach and others about your progress.

If you are ready to finally take charge of your goal setting, make certain you are signed up for my weekly newsletter. There will be a free call in December on goal setting. Yes, no charge. You must be signed up to receive the email which will announce the call information. 

Mitch Tublin owns a boutique consulting firm with a focus on leadership development, business strategy and executive coaching. Based in Stamford, CT with clients all over the globe.

 

What Comes Next After Setting Goals? Taking Action!

Setting Smart GoalsNow that we have all set our goals for 2016 and we all know how to set goals right?

SMART goals

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Realistic
  • Tangible

Now the more difficult work begins. This is taking action, implementation and execution.

The absolute and most important item is to start – actually take that very first step. For many people this never happens. They are locked out by their fears. Real or imagined this is the biggest reason people never act on their dreams, even when they have a great idea or concept, their fear holds them back from even getting started.

A funny thing happens though once you take that first step and then the second step. You feel ‘Big Mo’ which is this feeling of Momentum. Once you get moving you don’t want to stop!

This is not to say that every single day will be a walk in the park! By staying in touch with your ‘why’ you are able to push through the obstacles, the brief failures and the changes in planning and action steps which will invariably take place. It is one of the most critical steps to take is to define your why.

You might be working on a specific project alone or with a team, or running your own business, but you cannot permit distractions to enter into the mix. There is a need to stay completely focused once you know your why and your goals to achieve. Now it is time to take action and to implement. Do not allow yourself to become distracted. Do not minimize the effort this will take! Distractions are everywhere – all around us.

The key is to remain completely focused!

It is an excellent idea to create a plan. The question is will you be open to change it? The key is your why, keep your 2016 goals and these remain solidly in front of you. The plan must remain flexible. Once it is clear the plan is not working, then it is time to create a new plan – without delay.

How familiar are you with your lid? Where do you lack a skill or where are you not as good as others? Do you recognize that by not having the awareness of the areas where you have a lid – you are holding back your organization? It is not only that you are leading the charge, you are holding others down who report to you and look to you for guidance and mentorship.

In closing, the way to make certain you are taking action, implementing and executing is to create accountability. You might have a person who will partner with you and become accountability partners with each other. You might participate in a Mastermind Group which adds a component around accountability. Choose an accountability method which works for you and keep this appointment regularly.

Be Intentional each day – get started with the 7 Day Experiment with John C. Maxwell.

Mitch Tublin is an advanced, certified coach and CEO and Founder of Wenkroy International LLC a boutique consultancy based in Stamford, CT.