Intentional Gratitude

Intentional Gratitude Happy ThanksgivingOne of the first CEO’s I had direct contact with while working with him often stated – the door swings both ways. This applied to a number of instances from deals we were negotiating to employees being hired or fired. The statement applies to viewpoints we all hold near and dear to our hearts as well.

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” ~John F. Kennedy 

Have you ever considered how others see you? Especially when speaking out with a certain point of view or value system. Do we each live out these ideals and view points?

Is it possible, at least for a few days if not longer, everyone will intentional stop wearing their political opinions on their chest and enjoy having conversations with people on other topics?

“The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.”    ~Charles Schwab 

Each day is there someone we come into contact with where we may offer our appreciation and even encouragement to them. Are there people we come into contact with often where we are actually withholding our appreciation and encouragement to? 

How many of us are going to a food store to pick up a few last minute items or to purchase everything needed for the family feast?  Do you stop and look at the person, the real human being, behind the register scanning each item? Maybe, just maybe ask how they are doing at this busy season? What are they doing for Thanksgiving?

Be intentional with gratitude for your family, your health, for what you and your family have in life.  Celebrate by being intentional with gratitude to people you interact with.

It does not take more than a few minutes. Your caring attention and a few kind words may make someone’s day.

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”
Mother Theresa

It is my hope and wish you will take in a few deep breaths and reflect on how really fortunate you are to be able to do exactly that. There are people who struggle for each single breath.

Here are a few thoughts to read through to help get you in the mood if you are not there yet.

“You never know when a moment and a few sincere words can impact a life forever.”                                                            ~ Zig Zigler

“They may forget your name but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou

There may be some of you who are getting really upset with me. You feel that these are way too soft. In fact you are wondering if this article was outsourced. You should know me better than that by now. Every single word is written by me each week! This quote then is for all of you –

“Usually, what angry people need most is not more hostility, but to hear just a few kind words… to know someone cares. Like ‘Calm down, everything is going to be okay, you stupid psychotic f***’.”
Buster Gore

Enjoy a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday.

Mitch Tublin runs a boutique consulting company providing strategic and lean advice to a variety of mid-size companies to start-ups. As an advanced certified coach his practice is based in Stamford, CT.

How Do You Feel About Thanksgiving?

This year we will have a few guests for Thanksgiving who are exchange students. They live in Copenhagen or nearby to there. For the Fall Semester they are attending the University of Wisconsin – Madison. Since we live within a relatively short train ride to New York City the added attraction for them visiting us during Thanksgiving is to tour and visit NYC – the sites and sounds.

The fact that our guests this year have never experienced Thanksgiving has us thinking more about the Thanksgiving Holiday itself and what it means to us as a family. We already feel this is our favorite Holiday of them all.

Probably the best way to move through and explain our view on Thanksgiving is to use the:





                                               AND FUN!


A friend of ours, Gary, told us about an idea he had started to implement. He and his wife started their family a few years before us. His idea was to have a shirt with each child’s name on the shirt.  Each year on their birthday to take a photo of the child laying on the shirt. Then as they grow older and larger in size they begin to actually fit into and wear the shirt for the photo. We started our tradition with red football jerseys. We take a new photo each year on Thanksgiving.



The one time each year my wife actually cooks a meal has been Thanksgiving. Now that our four kids are older and know everything this does not work any longer. Plus the introduction of the book, “It Starts With Food” has changed our eating patterns for good.

In addition, two of our four children are big fans and followers of the Whole 30 model of eating as well.  What this all means is, well it is all how you look at life… Either it is much more complicated now to purchase and prepare our Thanksgiving Meal or it is much more fun and enjoyable to know we are eating healthier food and preparing many of our dishes from organic and locally sourced providers of natural food.

Photo Credit @arfsb

Photo Credit @arfsb


The games will be on TV throughout the day. How much of the games we watch, who knows. It is something we enjoy and if it is true about the amount of total minutes are actual action during a football game then we probably see half of those action packed minutes live and the rest either by replay or ESPN later on that night or the next morning.


We all have fun!


Thanksgiving is about all of these F-WORDs and most of all giving THANKS.

Being thankful for what we have:

  • Our Health
  • Our Freedom
  • Our Lives

Many of us volunteer our time or donate to charity or both for those in need. All of this should be top of mind throughout the year. Not only on Thanksgiving. Since it is Thanksgiving, we must make it top of mind today.

How do you feel about Thanksgiving?

Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.